Domestic Violence Part 1

Father, please let love and peace reign in every Christian home in Jesus' name.

MEMORY VERSE: "Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.” – Proverbs 10:12  

BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 15:1-7

A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.
The eyes of the LORD [are] in every place, Keeping watch on the evil and the good.
A wholesome tongue [is] a tree of life, But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
A fool despises his father's instruction, But he who receives correction is prudent.
[In] the house of the righteous [there is] much treasure, But in the revenue of the wicked is trouble.
The lips of the wise disperse knowledge, But the heart of the fool [does] not [do] so.

Violence can be defined as extreme force, action intended to cause destruction, pain or suffering, widespread fighting, injustice or wrong while domestic violence is an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship (Proverbs 27:4; Ecclesiastes 7:9).  Other terms used for domestic violence include domestic abuse, battery and family violence. This ranges from use of abusive/derogatory words, physical assault to the use of dangerous weapons. It has been observed that some family members, in spite of the love they proclaim, still engage in acts of violence against one another. Therefore, we need to find out why this is so and remedies to this act.


The writer of Proverbs 15, verse1-7 proffered some remedies to anger which is a form of violence:

i. Soft answer to aggressive question/demand. Prov. 15:1

ii. Wise application of knowledge to foolish information. Prov. 15:2

iii. Understanding the truth that the eyes of the Lord is watching every home and act. The fear of the Lord is capable of stemming ungodly act of violence. Prov. 15:3

iv. A gentle word has power to heal wound of misunderstanding and contrariness. Prov. 15:4

v. Application of Godly parent's instructions and corrections has capacity to produce well nurtured/cultured children. Prov. 15:5

vi. Living a righteous life is an antidote to sin which include violence. Prov. 15:6.

vii. Wisdom will sift chaff from grain, wisdom will help to discover that not all battles are worth fighting. Prov. 15:7.

The opposite of the stated above remedies will spur violence.

1. Forms of domestic violence
2. Causes of domestic violence


Teacher should explain the forms of violence as presented below:

i. Physical Violence: This include flogging, bullying, battering, stoning, strangling, pushing, kicking, slapping, punching, hitting, confinement, assault with weapons, destruction of victim's personal property/possessions or treat to do so, and murder. Gen. 4:8.

ii. Verbal Abuse: This include verbal threats or intimidations to gain compliance, instilling fear or further violence, yelling or screaming, constant harassment and name calling. 1Sam. 20:30.

iii. Sexual violence: This include sexual assault (forcing someone to participate in unwanted/unsafe or degrading sexual activity), sexual  harassment (ridiculing another person to try to limit their sexuality). Sexual exploitation (such as forcing someone into sex hawking). 2Sam.13:12-14.

iv. Psychological Violence: Such as smoking, imitating, isolating, threatening, intimidating and exclusion from meaningful events. 2Sam.13:22-23.

v. Emotional Violence: Such as rejection, pretending not to notice one's presence. Gen. 21:9-11.

vi. Economic Violence: This include withholding economic resources (such as money), stealing from or defrauding a partner, withholding physical resources such as food, clothes, necessary medications or shelter from a partner or children, preventing a spouse from working or choosing an occupation. 1Tim. 5:8

vii. Religious Violence: This include preventing one's spouse from practicing his/her religious or spiritual belief, forcing the children to be reared in a faith that a spouse has not agreed to, using a spouse religious or spiritual belief to manipulate him/her. Dan. 3:20

Class should share their experience, be it personal or told, on any of the above forms of violence.


Teacher should explain the causes listed above to students and should allow them to discuss them using their experiences:

i. Economic hardship, unemployment, stress, provocation by the spouse.

ii. Emotional/psychological issues such as depression, desperation, feeling of insecurity, suspicion and fear. Sexual infidelity, etc.

iii. Character defects (jealousy, anger) alcohol and drug related issues, insincerity and deception/failed expectations.

iv. Complex issue ( inferiority/superiority).

v. Failure to yield to divine instructions. Gen.4:4-8.

vi. Third party/interference from family, friends, colleagues ,etc.

vii. Environmental factors, spiritual attack, generational curses, etc.

Class should discuss how peace can reign in Christian homes.

Domestic Violence in its forms should not raise its ugly head in Christian homes.

If there is no peace  in the home, the society will also be void of peace. Let us identify the root cause of violence in our families and deal with it prayerfully.

Father, let Your peace return and abide in every Christian homes.

Identify five(5) causes of societal violence and suggest remedies. 2marks for each point

Sunday School Hymn

1. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.

2. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.

3. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.

4. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.

5. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I'll be in Sunday School.

6. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?

Reference : RCCG Sunday School Teacher's Manual Lesson Twenty- Four, Sunday 10th February 2019