Anger Management Therapy

Anger Management: Self-Help Techniques It is important to recognise when you feel angry or experience feelings that may lead to anger. You should not try to suppress your anger but instead try to understand it and act in a positive way to alleviate negative aspects of your anger. Take Regular Exercise and Keep Fit The hormones that we release when we are angry - mainly cortisol and adrenaline - are similar to those produced when we are stressed to help us to escape from danger. The release of these hormones is an evolutionary trait, useful if you are trying to run away from a mammoth but maybe less important in modern life where, for most of us, such life-threatening situations do not occur regularly. When you exercise regularly your body learns how to regulate your adrenaline and cortisol levels more effectively.  People who are physically fit have more optimum levels of endorphins; endorphins are hormones that make you feel good and therefore less likely to feel angry. Sleep Sleep is an important part of life and good quality sleep can help combat many physical, mental and emotional problems, including anger. When we sleep, the body and mind rest and rebuild damaged cells and neural pathways.  We all know that people often feel better after a good night’s sleep.  The optimum level of good quality sleep is about 7 hours a night, however everybody is different and you may need more or less than this. Plan ‘Difficult’ Conversations If you are worried about having a conversation that may leave you feeling angry then try to take control of the situation.  Make notes beforehand, planning what you want to say in a calm and assertive way.  You are less likely to get side-tracked during your conversation if you can refer to your notes. Solutions Are More Important Than Problems It can be helpful to identify what made you angry in the first place. However, it is more important to focus on a way to resolve problems so that they don’t arise again in the future. Express Yourself Wait until you have calmed down from your anger and then express yourself in a calm and collected way. You need to be assertive without being aggressive. Don't Hold Grudges We all need to accept that everybody is different and that we cannot control the feelings, beliefs or behaviours of others.Try to be realistic and accept that people are the way they are, not how we would like them to be.  Being resentful or holding a grudge against somebody will increase your anger and make it more difficult to control. You cannot change how other people behave or think but you can change how you deal with others but working on a positive attitude. Pick Your Time Avoid conversations that may make you angry when you are feeling tired, distracted or stressed.  We are more likely to feel and behave in an angry way when there are other worries on our minds. Humour It is easy to use inappropriate sarcasm when angry; resist the temptation to do this and instead work on introducing some good humour into potentially difficult conversations.  If you can introduce some humour then resentment will be reduced and your mood lifted.The simple act of laughing can go along way to reduce anger, especially over the longer term. See our page on Laughter Therapy for more information. Be aware that although laughing can help you feel better you need to make sure there is no danger of misinterpretation. Breathe Slowly and Relax Try to reverse the physical symptoms of anger by practising some simple breathing exercises. Breathing exercises can help you to relax and slow your heart rate to more normal levels. When you start to feel tense and angry, try to isolate yourself for 15 minutes and concentrate on relaxing and calm, steady breathing:Inhale and exhale deeply 3 or 4 times in a row.Count slowly to four as you inhale.Count slowly to eight as you exhale.Focus on feeling the air move in and out of your lungs.Concentrate and feel your ribs slowly rise and fall as you repeat the exercise.Stop and revert to normal breathing if you start to feel dizzy at any time. Anger Management Therapy

ANGER. -get it out!

Anger is a feeling that affects us all. Things that can make us feel angry include a threat to us or people close to us, a blow to our self-esteem or social standing in a group, being interrupted when we’re pursuing a goal, being treated unfairly and feeling unable to change this, being verbally or physically assaulted, or someone going against a principle we feel is important. Anger is an important emotion, according to Celia Richardson of the Mental Health Foundation. “It’s the one that tells us we need to take action to put something right,” she says. “Anger is a problem-solving emotion. It gives us strength and energy, and motivates us to act.”But for some, anger can get out of control and cause problems with relationships, work and even the law. Physical signs of anger  Everyone has a physical response to anger. Our body releases the hormone adrenalin, making our heart beat faster and making us breathe quicker and sweat more.This allows us to focus on the threat and react quickly, but it can also mean we don’t think straight, and maybe react in ways we might regret later on.  “One person in five has ended a relationship because of the way the other person dealt with anger,” says Celia.“Reports show that anger problems are as common as depression and anxiety, but people don’t often see it as a problem, or don’t realise there are ways to tackle it.” Individual reactions to being angry How people react to feeling angry depends on many things including the situation, their family history, cultural background, gender and general stress levels. People can express anger verbally, by shouting. Sometimes this can be aggressive, involving swearing, threats or name-calling. Some people react violently and lash out physically, hitting other people, pushing them or breaking things. Other people might hide their anger or turn it against themselves. They can be very angry on the inside but feel unable to let it out. It’s important to deal with anger in a healthy way that doesn’t harm you or anyone else. Intense and unresolved anger is linked to health conditions such as high blood pressure, depression, anxiety and heart disease. It can also affect your relationships and your work, and get you into trouble with the law. Dealing with anger in a healthy way includes: recognising when you get angry taking time to cool down reducing the amount of stress in your life Anger management is a psycho-therapeutic program for anger prevention and control. It has been described as deploying anger successfully. Anger is frequently a result of frustration, or of feeling blocked or thwarted from something we feel to be important. Anger can also be a defensive response to underlying fear or feelings of vulnerability or powerlessness. Anger management programs consider anger to be a motivation caused by an identifiable reason which can be logically analyzed, and if suitable worked toward. "We all experience anger; anger only becomes a serious concern when an individual is angry too frequently, too intensely, and for too long." - Raymond W. Novaco, 1984 Anger management is a term used to describe the skills you need to recognise that you, or someone else, is becoming angry and take appropriate action to deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger is a perfectly normal human emotion and, when dealt with appropriately, can even be considered a healthy emotion.  We all feel angry from time to time, yet this feeling can lead us to say or do things that we later regret. Anger can reduce our inhibitions and make us act inappropriately. Anger management concerns recognising the triggers for anger as early as possible and expressing these feelings and frustrations in a cool, calm and collected way. We often have learnt-behaviours as to how to deal with strong emotions, so anger management is about unlearning ineffective coping mechanisms and re-learning more positive ways to deal with the problems and frustrations associated with anger. There are many anger management techniques that you can learn and practise by yourself or teach to others. However if you, or someone you know, experiences a lot of regular anger or very strong anger (rage) then seeking help, usually in the form of a counsellor, can be more effective. You should seek professional help if anger is having a long-term negative impact on your relationships, is making you unhappy, or is resulting in any dangerous or violent behaviour. Do You Need Professional Help with Anger? If you answer yes to any of these questions then you may need professional help to manage your anger. Your behaviour has led to any sort of criminal or civil wrongdoing. You are violent towards your partner, children or other people. You threaten violence to people or property. You have outbursts of rage which involve deliberately breaking things. You have constant arguments with people close to you, your spouse/partner, parents, children, colleagues or friends. You feel angry frequently but internalise the emotion. You think that you may need professional help with your anger. All what you need is Anger Management Therapy. Also, pray through.

FIVE SPIRITUAL KEYS YOU NEED TO FULFIL YOUR DREAM

God has given you the power to create your own prosperity, wealth, and success. This sermon article contains 5 very powerful spiritual laws of wealth plus several keys to divine prosperity. Your prosperity and wealth is important to God. I’ll say that again. Your prosperity and wealth is important to God. “Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the LORD be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of his servant.” (Psalm 35:27) So, God has pleasure in your prosperity. In other words, when you are prosperous, He is happy. Think about that. Actually, one reason I want to prosper, and enjoy divine prosperity and wealth is because it brings pleasure to God. Here’s another verse showing God’s attitude towards the prosperity of His children. Again, carefully note my emphasis: “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.” (3 John 1:2) I always paraphrase the above verse thus, “Beloved, there are so many things that I wish for you, but above them all I wish that you prosper and be in health.” It matters to God that you, as His child, be prosperous. Your groveling in the dust, worried about how to pay the bills, barely managing to get by, and feeding from hand to mouth does not pleasure God at all. Your prosperity and wealth is important to God.” The anointing of God that came on Jesus Christ is a poverty-killer Did you know that the first category of people targeted by the Messiah’s anointing were the poor? Well, read it for yourself below: “”The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor. “” (Luke 4:18-19) As you can see from my emphasis in the above verses, four people groups are listed as targets for emancipation by the anointing on Jesus Christ: The poor The prisoners The blind The oppressed But observe also that the poor were listed first! The first enemy marked for destruction by that anointing was poverty. This is no coincidence. If God delights in the prosperity of His servants, He must be grieved by their poverty. God loves the poor, but He sure hates their poverty and wretchedness! The anointing of God that came on Jesus Christ is a poverty-killer. If you are a child of God, if Jesus Christ is Saviour and Lord in your life, then you have absolutely no business with lack and wretchedness.” You have the power to create prosperity for yourself The anointing of God within you – that is, the presence of the Holy Spirit of God in you – means that you have the POWER (potential and capacity) to break free from the yoke of poverty and soar to new heights of refreshing divine supernatural prosperity and wealth. This is because an important result of the presence of the Holy Spirit in your life is POWER – that is, your ability to transform your circumstances! “But you will receive POWER when the Holy Spirit comes on you…”” (Acts 1:8a) When the Holy Spirit comes upon you, you don’t receive religion, emotionalism, or empty gibberish. You receive POWER!!! And one of the purposes of divine power is to get wealth. “But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is he that giveth thee POWER TO GET WEALTH…” (Deuteronomy 8:18) God has deposited His power within you for many reasons, one of which is to GET WEALTH. Within you lies the POWER TO GET WEALTH, to create your own prosperity . You have the POWER to transform your circumstances. That power is within your inner man. You are not a victim, so for God’s sake quit thinking and whining like one! From the following verse, we note that prosperity is a cardinal function of the anointing. “…You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.” (Psalms 23:5b) Because my head is anointed with oil – a symbol of the Holy Spirit, the presence of God – my cup overflows. An overflowing cup symbolizes abundant prosperity and wealth. It is the opposite of being in lack, wallowing in the despair and frustration of being continuously broke and in debt. Yes, God wants your cup to overflow. He wants you to enjoy His prosperity and wealth in your life; that’s why He anoints your head with oil. So, why are so many cups empty in the among God’s children? Why do many of God’s children, who have the Holy Spirit, and thus the power to get wealth, live in abject poverty and wretchedness? Why is it that many whose heads have been anointed with oil have empty cups? The answer is simply because of the violation of the following vital spiritual principles.” 5 of the most powerful spiritual keys to create your own prosperity and wealth. “Spiritual Key #1: Submit to God “Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you.” (Job 22:21) God is the absolute Ruler of this Universe. If you claim to be His child and yet consistently flout His natural and universal laws, you deceive yourself. To submit to God has very little to do with the various rituals and ceremonies with which the religious masses deceive themselves into thinking they are worshipping God. True submission to God can only happen when you learn, understand, and master His natural and spiritual laws. When you submit to divine laws, you are submitting to God, thereby ATTRACTING PROSPERITY AND WEALTH. God is inseparable from His WORD (laws). There are natural laws governing the creation and attraction of prosperity and wealth. You have the power to obey and apply these laws, but you must know what they are! Spiritual Key #2: Delight yourself in the Lord “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalms 37:4) TO delight yourself in the LORD refers to a love affair with Him! It means ‘fall in love with the Lord.’  This has to do with fellowship and intimacy with the Lord. You see, when you are in love with the Lord, it will lead to intimacy with Him, then spiritual intercourse. And guess what? Something beautiful happens… He gives you the desires of your heart! Actually, this doesn’t mean that He’ll give you the things that you desire, such as money and stuff. It rather means that He’ll place desires in your heart. He’ll plant dreams, goals, and visions in your heart! When you delight yourself in the Lord, it means that you are in love with Him. This will ultimately lead to intimacy and intercourse wherein He plants divine sperm (dreams and visions) within you. Wow! But eventually, you will need the ‘know-how’ to translate these dreams and visions into realities, which is why you need the third spiritual key. Spiritual Key #3: Tune into the inspiration of God within you “But there is a spirit in man: and the inspiration of the Almighty giveth them understanding.” (Job 32:8) The inspiration of God lies within you. You must learn to tune into it for guidance and breakthrough ideas. Whereas many religious folks have mastered how to make their requests known to God through religious prayers and rituals, only very few have learnt how to hear God’s ideas (wisdom) within them. This is not surprising as majority of human beings are too busy blindly and lazily following the manipulative ideas of others, that they have no room for the voice of God within their own spirits. When you delight yourself in the Lord, he places dreams and visions in your heart. But you must learn to tune into His inspiration within you for ideas, plans and strategies to translate those dreams and visions into realities. “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it. “” (Isaiah 30:21) Many have dreams and visions but are groping in the darkness of ignorance and foolishness, all in the name of trying to achieve their dreams. The result is disappointment and frustration. But when you learn to tune into the inspiration of God within your spirit, you discern the way to make your dreams happen. I heard someone tell recently of how he took time to get quiet and listen to the inspiration within. “I got an idea that gave me four million dollars in just one hour,” he said. Think about it. One breakthrough idea is more than enough to give you the life of your dreams. However, every genuine inspiration from God will create the need to apply the fourth spiritual key. Spiritual Key#4: Give! “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “” (Luke 6:38) The above instruction, of course, comes from Jesus Christ Himself. According to Jesus Christ, prosperity and wealth – the kind I’m writing about here – are not measured in terms of how much you possess, but rather in terms of how much you give. The presence of Jesus Christ within you means that you have a lot to offer your world. Don’t expect to prosper if all you know to do is take and take and take, without giving anything in return. If I may ask, what are your unique contributions and gifts to the human family? A lot of people are on welfare, living off the labour and sweat of other hardworking persons. If you want to release your prosperity genius, you must switch from the mindset of consumption, to that of contribution. When I say contributions, I mean the products and services that emerge from your talents and skills. These should be deployed towards the benefit of your fellow human beings if you must attract prosperity. To give means to put your skills, talents, and abilities to work to create beneficial products and services for others. Prosperity will ultimately come to you if and when you invest time and energy, plus other resources, to translate your talents and abilities into products and services for the welfare of the human family. That’s how it works. Whatever you use your talents, skills, etc. to do for others is a product.  However, you must be consistent and organized in the creating and delivering of your numerous products. So, you already have products and services, but: Are they organized? Are they being delivered consistently and diligently? Are you constantly improving the quality of the content and delivery of these products and services? At the end of the day, you need the fifth spiritual key as the glue that binds them all together. #5. Be thankful Don’t become blind to your present blessings. You are already prosperous. There are so many blessings of God in your life for which you should be thankful. “Jesus then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish.” (John 6:11) Jesus had only 5 loaves and two fishes to feed a crowd of over 5000 starving men, women, and children. Yet He didn’t complain about His meager resources. He rather looked up to heaven and gave thanks to God. Thanksgiving is a great multiplier of resources. You will easily attract prosperity and wealth into your life if you maintain a constant attitude of genuine and sincere gratitude. Give thanks to God for the life you have, for your family, and for the beauty of His creation that surrounds you. Give thanks to God for your job or business even if the income isn’t yet at the level you desire. Beloved, the anointing of God within you – the presence of the Holy Spirit of God in you – means that you have the POWER (potential and capacity) to break free from the yoke of poverty and soar to new heights of refreshing divine supernatural prosperity and wealth. I encourage you to carefully master and diligently apply the 5 spiritual keys I’ve shared here in order to create your own prosperity and wealth. God bless you.

THE POWER OF DREAM ~JOSEPH AS A BIBLICAL CASE STUDY

1.You need to have a God given dream: Joseph succeeded because he had a God given dream. Numbers 23:19 tells us that “God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?” and Habbakuk 2:3 “For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry”. To live a life of accomplishment, you need to have a God given dream. 2.You need to have a God based relationship Psalms 146:8 “the LORD loveth the righteous:”, James 4:8 “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you”. Dwelling in the will of God is one way of attracting God’s intervention in every area of your life. Joseph feared God and hence things went well for him. Genesis 39:2-3 “And the LORD was with Joseph, and he was a prosperous man;, and that the LORD made all that he did to prosper in his hand”. 3. You need to know who you are: Identifying who you are is vital to fulfilling your God given dream/ vision. Joseph identified and realised his natural ability for administration at an early age. He also knew he could by God’s enablement interpret dreams. This became a stepping-stone for him. What makes you different from others? Take time to find it. 4. You need help from God For any God given dream, you cannot rely on the human flesh to fulfil it. You need help from God. James 4:10 “ Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up”. Genesis 41:16 “And Joseph answered Pharaoh, saying, It is not in me: God shall give Pharaoh an answer of peace ”. When you get help from God, you get astounding results. When Joseph got help through God’s counsel and direction, his promotion was inevitable. Genesis 41:37-38 “And the thing was good in the eyes of Pharaoh, and in the eyes of all his servants And Pharaoh said unto his servants, Can we find such a one as this is, a man in whom the Spirit of God is?” 5. You need to acquire training, skill and experience You need to build momentum. From feeding the flocks, Joseph gathered the skill, training and experience he needed the climb upwards to higher positions to Potiphar’s house, to the King’s Prison and then the Palace. The earlier you learn to use the sling stone, the easier it is to kill Goliath. The earlier you discover and maximise your God given abilities and skills and make the best of them through training and gathering experience, the closer you are to the Palace!!! 6. You need to have and maintain purposeful relationships There are certain people that God has placed in your life to be a springboard for your accomplishing your God given dream/ vision. Joseph’s father observed Joseph’s sayings and took note of them. Consciously or unconsciously he gave Joseph instructions that took him into the place of purpose. Genesis 37;13-14 “And Israel said unto Joseph, Do not thy brethren feed the flock in Shechem? come, and I will send thee unto them. And he said to him, Here am I. And he said to him, Go, I pray thee, see whether it be well with thy brethren, and well with the flocks; and bring me word again. So he sent him out of the vale of Hebron, and he came to Shechem” It was obedience to this instruction that saw Joseph exported to Egypt. Recognising God based relationships is a platform for fulfilling a God given dream/ vision. Recognise those that are playing a God sent role in your life and hold fast to them. 7. Get help from others Do not be too proud to ask for help. Joseph asked for help. Genesis 37:15-16 “And a certain man found him, and, behold, he was wandering in the field: and the man asked him, saying, What seekest thou? And he said, I seek my brethren: tell me, I pray thee, where they feed their flocks.” For him to get the passport into Egypt, he needed to fulfil his father’s assignment. When he faced challenges in doing this, he asked for help and got back on track. You do not know it all. If Moses, the anointed prophet of God received wise counsel from Jethro, his non-prophet father in law how much more you? (Exodus 18:13-26) 8. Take action and seize initiative It is one thing to have a God given dream, it’s another thing to work towards it. Joseph took initiative. We were not told that God appeared to Joseph and told him to ask the butler and the baker why they were sad. He took initiative. Pharoah’s selection of Joseph as Prime Minister came because of this trait- He only asked Joseph to interpret his dreams but Joseph took initiative, went a step ahead and also gave him God inspired counsel. You market yourself by taking initiative. Pharoah did not know before then that Joseph was the wisest man in Egypt until Joseph gave him the wise counsel. Don’t wait to be told, do what you know is right! Matthew 5:16 “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven” 9. Be a Problem Solver The size of your reward depends on the size of the problem you solve. Joseph interpreted the dream of Pharaoh and became his second in command. He gave counsel useful for a whole nation and became a Prime Minister. As Joseph solved more problems the higher he went up in life. Genesis 40:8 “And they said unto him, We have dreamed a dream, and there is no interpreter of it. And Joseph said unto them, Do not interpretations belong to God? tell me them, I pray you”. 10. Be committed to serve Most people want to hit it big by starting big. If you want to be a Master, you first have to serve. For one no matter how talented, anointed and skilled you are, your path to success can be cut short if you do not respect God’s ordained and constituted authority. Joseph obeyed his father’s instructions and got a passport to the land of his assignment- Egypt. He served God and God made things in his hand to flourish when he served under Potiphar. Because he served God and God honours those who serve Him, Joseph’s denial of Potiphar’s wife carnal desires gave him a passport into the prison. When Joseph served the Captain of the Guard and attended to the butler and the baker as he was assigned, he drew nearer to his greatness. The pathway to greatness is first by way of service. Matthew 20: 26-27 “but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister; And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant:” 11. Don’t ever, ever , ever give up Galatians 6:9 “ And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not”. Joseph faced opposition from his brethren but he did not give up. He faced opposition from his environment but he still did not give up. He faced opposition from challenging circumstances and situations but he still did not give up. Giving up can cut off the joy of harvest. Learn to make the best of every situation. Adverse Circumstances are platforms for you to experience the grace of God. It only began to be mentioned that God was with Joseph when he started to suffer- in Potiphar’s house and in the prison. Falling into sin, submitting to temptation, loosing faith in God are all signs of giving up. People who accomplish are people who overcome. Proverbs 24:10 “If thou faint in the day of adversity, thy strength is small”. Hold on to your belief. Hold on to your values. Don’t loose faith for even in the darkest night joy cometh in the morning!! John 11:40 “Jesus saith unto her, Said I not unto thee, that, if thou wouldest believe, thou shouldest see the glory of God?” See you in the Palace!!!

SKY IS NOT THE LIMIT ; YOUR mind IS YOUR LIMIT.

You’ve heard the saying, “The sky’s the limit.” It’s meant to indicate that you can achieve anything; that humans can reach beyond the bounds of planet Earth and enjoy limitless success. I think it’s an antiquated term. I prefer to believe that the sky is definitely NOT the limit. Why be limited by anything? Strictly speaking, the sky is the space over the Earth where the sun, moon, stars, and clouds appear. But there’s an entire unexplored cosmic universe out there that is beckoning us—a limitless universe that sets new sights and new standards for goal-setting. Why shoot for the sky when you can shoot for the outer reaches of the vast celestial cosmos? Be fearless! Dream big! BeLimitless! Man’s potential goes way beyond the sky. You can achieve whatever you want to achieve. With the right character, with determined confidence, and with innovative ideas that count you can rise from nothing to the highest levels of society. If you can think it, you can do it. It’s up to you. How does that last statement make you feel? For many, turning thoughts into deeds, and taking the germ of an idea and creating a business employing hundreds or thousands of people, are immensely challenging hurdles. The first time around it’s taking a step into the unknown. And it can be scary. But once you get beyond the fear there awaits a wondrous world of excitement, of achievement, and of satisfaction. Marianne Williamson once put it this way: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” The mind of man is limitless. Look at history. Look at today’s world. The pace of innovation and invention in all aspects of our lives continues at an astonishing pace. High-tech. Medicine. Communications. Science. Some futurists even predict that we won’t experience 100 years of progress in the 21st century—it will be more like 20,000 years of progress. Dramatic changes…amazing scientific and technological breakthroughs…they can seemingly materialize out of nowhere and disrupt the world as we know it. So where do you fit in? The answer is…where do you want to fit in? What can you do? What can you contribute? What’s your potential? What do you want to do? Hopefully, you have an inner voice that’s talking to you and encouraging you to recognize your true potential and shake it awake. Don’t make excuses. That’s the easy way out. We can all find reasons why we should not do something. It’s harder to take action and do it. Just know that when you invest your heart and soul in a project it’s a magical, life-energizing, transformative experience. Go ahead and discover that for yourself. Don’t limit your thinking. Don’t limit your do-ing. Challenge yourself to achieve greatness. Find your passion. Share it with others. Collaborate. Shake off any shackles that have been holding you down. Find individuals with whom you can work who share your passion; good people who share your values and your mission. People you can trust. Ignore the naysayers and the critics. Ignore the people who are envious. Especially ignore those who wish you ill. Don’t be ordinary. Be extraordinary. The sky is not the limit—unless you allow it to be. As one great athlete said, “Limitations live only in our minds.  But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.”

GREATNESS ! .

Greatness means the quality of being great, distinguished. It also means unusual largeness in size or extent or number. Greatness is the property possessed by something or someone of outstanding importance or eminence. We are great because God has made us great. We need to however walk in some principles to ensure we are all God wants us to be. Greatness because of our inheritance Ephesians 1:17-20 17 That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him: 18 The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints, 19 And what is the exceeding greatness of his power to us-ward who believe, according to the working of his mighty power, 20 Which he wrought in Christ, when he raised him from the dead, and set him at his own right hand in the heavenly places. Our new birth has engrafted us into greatness because of the supernatural life of God in us through Jesus Christ. We must realise that we are not trying to be great; we already are because of the precious blood of the lamb. Greatness is our inheritance because we are joint heirs with Christ. Romans 8:17 ‘And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together’. We have become partakers of the greatness that is in Christ. We need to have revelation to enjoy eternal greatness. A lot of people think they are great because of their physical possessions, some others think they are not great because of their family backgrounds, exposure, race, location etc. Some even leave greatness to chance, saying they aren’t lucky to be great. The Word of God (Psalm 71:21) says he would increase your greatness on every side. This clearly shows you are already great and can only keep increasing in greatness. The principle of Honour. We need to understand that honour precedes greatness. When a Man honours God and all men, God will in turn honour him. Solomon honoured God and he became great. 1 Kings 3:3; 11-12 3 And Solomon loved the LORD, walking in the statutes of David his father: only he sacrificed and burnt incense in high places. 11 And God said unto him, Because thou hast asked this thing, and hast not asked for thyself long life; neither hast asked riches for thyself, nor hast asked the life of thine enemies; but hast asked for thyself understanding to discern judgment; 12 Behold, I have done according to thy words: lo, I have given thee a wise and an understanding heart; so that there was none like thee before thee, neither after thee shall any arise like unto thee.   God told Solomon there would be none like him before and after him. He became so great that the queen of Sheba almost lost her breadth at his greatness.   3.The principle of the Seed. Isaac: He sowed and reaped a hundred fold and he became exceedingly great Genesis 26:12-14 12 Then Isaac sowed in that land, and received in the same year an hundredfold: and the LORD blessed him. 13 And the man waxed great, and went forward, and grew until he became very great: 14 For he had possession of flocks, and possession of herds, and great store of servants: and the Philistines envied him. The bible records that Isaac became exceedingly great. We keep growing and waxing greater when we respect the principle of sowing. We need to sow in God’s kingdom. We cannot under estimate the principle of sowing, tithes, offerings, seeds of sacrifices, giving to the poor, giving our time, talent all ensure that we walk in the greatness of God for our lives. For Further Study 1 kings 10:5, Psalm 71:21 Personal declaration for the day My new life in Christ has engrafted me into a life of all round greatness and I consciously walk in my greatness. Questions for you to reflect on Do you know there is greatness within you? What principles of greatness are you walking in?  

HOW TO KNOW IF S/HE LOVES YOU? - RELATIONSHIP TALK

There is no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few signs to read in order to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you would like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention on how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you are together. Though love may mean something different to every person, there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you, just has a crush on you or just being momentarily infatuated with you. Method One of Three: Notice How the Person Acts See if the person can truly be him or herself around you. Part of being love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you. If the person shares his or her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love. If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her. 2 See if the person is happy to be around you — even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when s/he sees you, then that's a sign of love. If s/he is in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better — if only a little bit. The next time s/he is grumpy or has a bad day, see how s/he reacts in your presence. 3 See if the person gives you googly eyes. Though this may be silly, check out your loved one's face the next time you see him or her. Does s/he look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "googly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table. You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression. 4 See if the person is giddy around you. Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever s/he is around you? If so, then this may be love. If you've said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then s/he may be lovesick. If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then s/he may just be excited by your presence. 5 See if the person is upset when you are upset. If you are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If s/he truly loves you, then s/he'll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very upset because s/he'll want you to feel better as soon as you can. Though s/he doesn't have to be as upset as you are, the person should clearly be affected by your mood because all s/he wants is for you to be happy. Method Two of Three: Notice What The Person Says See if the person talks about your future together like it's a given. If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being in his or her future is an absolute given, not something that he or she would ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about what you're going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then he is probably in love with you. True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you. If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then s/he may really love you. 2 See if the person gives you meaningful compliments. There's a difference between saying, "I like your new haircut" and "You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what." If the person gives you compliments that show that s/he really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there's a good chance s/he really loves you. Your loved one doesn't have to shower you with compliments all the time — it's the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference. 3 See if the person says "I love you" and means it. Remember that there is a big difference between "Love ya!" and "I love you." If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it's likely that s/he really means it. If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say. 4 See if the person really opens up to you. If your loved one really loves you, then they will really open up to you and tell you what they are thinking, feeling, fearing, and longing for. If the person really opens up about their childhood, greatest regrets, most painful moments, or most romantic dreams for the future, then it's likely that they like you because the person is so comfortable telling you about almost everything. If the person tells you, "I've never told anyone this before..." then there's a good chance that s/he really loves and trusts you. 5 Notice if your loved one tells you how much s/he misses you when you are apart. If you and your loved one are apart, but s/he still texts you, calls you, or emails you to let you know how much s/he misses you, then it means s/he can't imagine his or her life without you. If you go on a three-week vacation and don't hear a word from him or her, then it may not be love. S/he doesn't have to call you constantly to let you know if s/he misses you. 6 See if the person is comfortable with pointing out your mistakes. If that person truly loves you, then s/he doesn't have an idealized picture of you in his or her mind. If it's truly love, then that person will be comfortable with telling you when you've made a mistake, said something illogical, or acted badly. Though the person shouldn't criticize you all the time, giving you a healthy amount of criticism just means that the person really knows you in and out and accepts your mistakes as well as your best qualities. If the person never argues with you or never criticizes you, then you should be on the look out. Make sure that the person truly loves you instead of an ideal version of who you are. 7 See if the person truly values your opinion. If the person truly loves you, then s/he'll care about what you think — whether it's about his or her new pair of shoes or the political situation in your country. If s/he really loves you, s/he will ask for your advice and opinions, whether it's on big or small matters. S/he may feel self-conscious about asking for your opinion, but s/he'll do it because s/he loves you. S/he doesn't have to ask for your opinion on everything — only the things that really matter. Method Three of Three: 1 See if the person will listen to anything you say. If the person really loves you, then s/he'll not only open up to you, but s/he'll also listen to anything you have to say — even if s/he's heard it all before. Though s/he won't be your lapdog, s/he will be around to hear your thoughts. S/he will nod and respond thoughtfully and not interrupt instead of switching the subject to something s/he wants to talk about. Part of being in love is just being able to listen. It's not all about being able to talk. 2 See if the person is always there for you, even if it's inconvenient. Sure, if you want to grab a drink or a tasty meal, the person is always around, but what about when you need a ride from the airport or you need someone to walk your dog while you're sick? If the person truly loves you, then s/he'll be there for you during the fun times as well as the not-so-fun times. If the person is only around when you're happy, lighthearted, or in a good mood, but flees the scene as soon as you are sad or cranky, then that is not love. Love is about being there for a person, no matter what. Truly loving a person means accepting all the positive and negative qualities of that person, and being around during the good times and the bad. 3 See if the person does nice things for you. If the person truly loves you, then s/he'll do thoughtful things like put gas in your car when you're busy, do your food shopping for you, or bring you chicken soup when you're home sick. These favors don't have to be constant or over-the-top, but if the person truly loves you, then s/he'll want to do things to make you smile and to make your life easier. True love isn't just about what you can take from the person, but what you can give as well. If the person really loves you, then s/he will do nice things for you without you having to ask. It should be implied that you need a favor or help sometimes. If you have to ask for something nice every time, then that may not be true love. 4 See if the person always wants to be around you. Part of being in love is always wanting to be around the person you love, even if it's impractical. If the person truly loves you, then he or she will want to be around you — a lot. This doesn't mean the person will want to be attached at the hip, but it does mean that the person will try to take as many opportunities as possible to see you. 5 See if the person knows when to give you space. If the person truly loves you, then s/he'll not only want to be around you a lot, but s/he will also know when to give you space and let you do your own thing. If the person wants to be around you all the time, then that's not love — it's infatuation. As love matures, two people will realize that they still need to do things separate to maintain their own identities. If the person wants to be around you every waking moment, then that may be more of a sign of that person's insecurities than true love. 6 See if the person truly understands you. True love is true understanding. Though it sounds lame, the person should really "get" you in order to love you. If the person actually understands your moods, knows what you want and what you don't want, and has an idea of what will make you happy before you may know it yourself, then that may be true love. It's okay if part of you remains mysterious to the person — you don't have to be understood 100%, but you do have to have the sense that the other person truly understands where you're coming from most of the time. 7 See if the person wants the best for you, even if it isn't the best for him or her. If a person truly loves you, then s/he will understand that there are some things that you have to do that may not be the best for him or her, or may mean that you will be spending some time apart. If s/he truly loves you, then s/he will understand that you have to spend a summer on a remote island to pursue your career in marine biology, or that you have to go home early to get enough sleep for a test instead of spending the night with him or her. If the person only wants what's best for both of you at all times, then s/he is not really seeing you as a unique individual with your own needs and desires. 8 See if s/he truly supports you. If s/he really loves you, then s/he will not only be there for the fun times — s/he'll also be there to help you achieve your goals and move forward in your life. If s/he truly loves you, then s/he'll be there in the bleachers during your soccer game, s/he'll be there to see you defend your thesis, and s/he'll be there to give you a ride to your job interview. And s/he'll be there whenever you want to talk about something that means a lot to you. If s/he really loves you, then s/he will support you to achieve your goals or pursue your interests, even if they have nothing to do with him or her. Answered Questions What if my personality is strange? Should I act like the person my crush really likes? It doesn't matter if your personality is "normal," "strange" or anything in between. If he or she doesn't like you for who you are, it's not true love. Never try to be something you're not. How do you know if someone who tells you they really care about you, that they really do care about you? Sometimes "words aren't enough" and "action speaks louder than words". People have the tendency to not share that kind of information especially if it's sincere. If you really want to know if they care, look at what they do for you. Do they make time to see you during busy weeks? Do they call you every now and then to check up on you? Do they drop small gifts and make a real effort? Do they remember extremely specific details about you? And most of all do they trust you? Answer these and you'll know. What does it mean if the person you love tests you once in a while? This depends on the context of your relationship and what the test involves. While initially you may consider being tested on your love to be a sign of disloyalty or a lack of trust, it may just be a normal human reaction to test the other person when the relationship seems as if it's going through a dull patch, under pressure or not as exciting as it once was. It's probably best to call out what you perceive as a test and ask why you feel as if your love, faith or loyalty toward the other person is being tested. Then have a heart-to-heart discussion about it, rather than assuming the worst. Bringing things into the light is always better for everyone. You may find it helpful to read an article that suggests how to test love, to see whether this is being tried on you; see, for example, How to Determine if the One You Love Loves You. What if she is quiet and awkward around me? What do I do? Break the ice, you have to entertain her especially if you've only just met. Use your charm and share some stories but first and foremost you have to know her, so start with some simple questions, such as: What do you do for a living? What are your hobbies? What do you like to do? Then add on to these answers. The key is balance -- keep the conversation fresh and continuous, be smart and think fast but make sure it's natural and always be yourself. If that doesn't work, sorry to say but she might not be too interested. How do I tell if the guy I been dating really cares about me? You can tell if he tells you constantly that he loves you, he is considerate of your needs and he goes out of his way to spend time with you. He will show genuine concern when you are having troubles and he will be there for you, not trying to fix things but to be supportive. Ask your heart, it knows best. Don't take someone's feelings for granted. Once you are attracted to someone, you will notice that he or she looks at you differently and smiles a lot when you're around. Be considerate of their feelings; when someone likes you, your actions mean a lot more to them. Be gentle. When some people do not talk with you it does not mean they don't love you; it could be that they're shy. Be careful not to mistake friendliness for flirting, you could end up getting hurt. If you get suspicions that they like you, then you definitely do NOT want to ask them, "Do you like me?" This could make the person more shy and probably never want to try to ask you out. Never give much more space than needed. You may lose the person. If your girlfriend/boyfriend seems clingy, or worried about you all the time, ask yourself if it's because they care about you. Sometimes, they will only do this for you, not themselves. Warnings That person still may not like you. It probably isn't because you did something wrong, it might be because he/she didn't want to commit to a life-changing decision. That person may try to sacrifice the love between you, if you have expressed lack of interest, possible inconvenience or that you already have a significant other such as a girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse, unless you continually emphasis a commitment to no longer be in another relationship.

BRANDED FOR EXPLOIT; LOADED FOR GREATNESS

A brand is a distinguishing symbol, mark, logo, name, word, sentence or a combination of these items that companies use to distinguish their product from others in the market. Legal protection given to a brand name is called a trademark A brand is seen as one of its company's most valuable assets. It represents the face of the company, the recognizable logo, slogan, or mark that the public associates with the company. In fact, the company is often referred to by its brand, and they become one and the same. A company's brand carries with it a monetary value in the stock market (if the company is public), which affects stockholder value as it rises and falls. For these reasons, it's important to uphold the integrity of the brand. Creating a Brand When a company decides to settle on a brand to be its public image, it must first determine its brand identity, or how it wants to be viewed. For example, a company logo often incorporates the message, slogan or product that the company offers. The goal is to make the brand memorable and appealing to the consumer. The company usually consults a design firm or design team to come up with ideas for the visual aspects of a brand, such as the logo or symbol. A successful brand accurately portrays the message or feeling the company is trying to get across and results in brand awareness, or the recognition of the brand's existence and what it offers. On the other hand, an ineffective brand often results from miscommunication. Once a brand has created positive sentiment among its target audience, the firm is said to have built brand equity. Some examples of firms with brand equity – possessing very recognizable brands of products – are Microsoft Corp. (MSFT), Coca-Cola (KO), Ferrari (FCAU), Apple (AAPL), and Facebook (FB). If done right, a brand results in an increase in sales for not just the specific product being sold, but also other products sold by the same company. A good brand engenders trust in the consumer, and after having a good experience with one product, the consumer is more likely to try another product related to the same brand. this phenomenon is often referred to as brand loyalty. The term brand also refers to the unique marks burned into the hides of cattle to distinguish the animals of one owner from those of another. It is well. Keep trying. I say : you are branded for expliot , loaded for gretness.

WHAT IS THAT MOUNTAIN ?

There is a greater place God is taking everyone to.God has plan and purpose for you.Jeremiah 1:5 says,"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; and before you came forth out of the womb I sanctified you... " God called Abraham to leave his kinsmen and women to a place that He would show him. Instantly, Abraham obeyed and got to his land of promise. He became great and he eventually got there.You also will get there in Jesus' name.What is that mountain? God can make the mountain plain,the sorrow joy,the bitterness sweetness,the disappointment appointment,the barreness fruitfulness,the temptation promotion,the failure success and bondage freedom. Whatever the mountain is , the Almighty Father can turn everything for good for your sake. For mountain to become plain do the following ; always give praise to God in all situations, believe that with God all things are possible, put all trust in God has a problem solver, preach Jesus to everyone , pray without ceasing , live in holiness and take the right step. ACTION BOX [ God consume every mountains hindering my success by fire in Jesus's name ]

DISCOVER YOURSELF TODAY

Discovery is the mother of invention,brother of creativity,father of originality and sister of superiority.Everyone is gifted.The discovery and exploitation of which is connected to our fulfilment as human beings.But without carrying out any empirical research,I know not many discover their or if they do,use them optimally.Underdeveloped potential will never fetch any reward,just as untapped crude oil will not generate national income to owner nation.Discover yourself today, sky is not the limit ! Young men and women should always strife for excellence; if you aim for average mark you probably remain as average for life. But if you aim at the sky , your thought will always be on achieving great things and you will not settle for the less.Premature statisfaction with half success is a dream-killer, nobody should indulge in it.In this connection, unwise use of resources in early part of one's career can make 1 year journey to consume 10 years.Discover,develop and be determined,you will get there!