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Sunday, January 13, 2019

Love Dynamics In Marriage






OPENING PRAYER: Father, let true love continue in every home.
BIBLE PASSAGE : GENESIS 2:18-25
18.And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19.And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20.And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21.And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22.And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23.And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24.Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25.And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
MEMORY VERSE: "By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone". Proverbs 25:15
LESSON INTRODUCTION :
Many marriages ate needlessly failing because the marriage partners lack the knowledge of relationship dynamics. Hosea 4:6. Most couples, sadly to say are ignorant on purpose. In this study, we will be looking at the scriptural principles and the love language that must characterize our marital relationships.
TEXT REVIEW : GENESIS 2:18-25 "DIVINE SURGICAL OPERATION"
The mystery of togetherness in marriage is divine. This is the explained in the light of the following references:
i. God started it " And God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him". Gen.2:18.
ii. God recognized it "And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof". Gen.2:21.
iii. God performed the surgery and reconstructed the rib."And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman". Gen.2:22.
iv. God translated the bone to bones and flesh. Gen. 2:23a
v. The only assignment which Adam did in the process was to label the new creation by naming it and to accept it. "And Adam said.....,she shall be called a woman....shall cleave to his wife". Gen.2:23-24.
vi. Both the man and the woman began to cohabit ( unity). They clave(unity). They were not ashamed (unity). Gen.2:24-25.
2 LESSON OUTLINES
LESSON OUTLINE 1: SCRIPTURAL PRINCIPLES GUIDING MARRIAGE
Couples should understand the following scriptural principles:
i. That the couple(male & female)is the image of God. Gen.1:27.
ii. That the differences in male and female are God-designed and therefore should be accepted as complimentary and not as competitive. Gen.2:18.
iii. That marriage is a divine institution and that it is a relationship of companionship. Gen.2:21-25; Matt.19: 5.
iv. That the marriage was design designed by God to be a permanent, mutual and covenant relationship. Matt. 19:6
v. That God's intent is for marriage to be an inestimable source of joy and fulfillment.
vi. That through marriage, God intends to bring redemption to human race. Gen. 3:15; 22:18.
vii. That marital relationship provides the vehicle for the incarnation of the Saviour, Jesus Christ. Ephemeral. 5:31-32.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Class to discuss why many marriages do not follow or are not based on the above-mentioned principles.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: UNDERSTANDING THE "LOVE LANGUAGES"
For a lasting marriage, couple should understand and apply the following five(5) love languages frequently:
i. Quality Time Together: Spending time with each other and talking without interruptions, going out and about, having fun together, celebrating birthdays and wedding anniversaries, etc. let courtship experience continue. Gen.26:8.
ii. Acts of Service: Do things you know your spouse would like you do. For example cooking meals, helping each other especially in household chores, etc. Eccl.4:9.
iii. Exchange of Gift: Express your love for each other through giving/receiving of gifts no matter how small. 1 Sam.1:5; Prov.17:8.
iv. Words of Affirmation: Couples must be consistent in saying  I love you, I am sorry, Thank you, you look nice in that dress etc. to each other. Song of Solomon 1:15; 4:1,7.
v. Physical Touching: This is a way of communicating emotional love, e.g. holding hands,  kissing , pecking, embracing , patting , necking,nibbling, sitting close to each other etc. Gen. 26:8; Song of Solomon 1:2.
SUMMARY :
Biblical marital principles and 'love language' strengthened the marital relationship.
CONCLUSION:
Couples should discover and express to each other what 'their' primary love language is and not just speak, but do to them what 'your' love language is.
EVALUATION :
i. What is love language?
ii. What are the biblical based marital principles?
CLOSING PRAYER :
Father, help couples to imbibe the biblical principles and love languages in Jesus' name.
ASSIGNMENT :
Find out five (5) major differences between the scripture-based marital principles and the world/carnal-based marital principle.


SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
1.O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
2. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
3. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
4. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.
5. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I'll be in Sunday School.
6. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?

Reference: RCCG Sunday School Teacher's Manual, Lesson Twenty (20) , 2018/2019 Edition.

Sunday, January 06, 2019

PRACTICAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE (PART 2)

OPENING PRAYER: Father, please let torment and fear be chased out of our marriages through the power of the Holy Spirit in Jesus' name.

BIBLE PASSAGE : 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
1.Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2.And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3.And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4.Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5.Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6.Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7.Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8.Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9.For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10.But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11.When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12.For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13.And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
MEMORY VERSE: "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love". 1 John 4:18.
LESSON INTRODUCTION :
In the previous lesson, we learnt about erotic/sexual love and friendship love as being crucial for a successful marriage. We shall further consider two(2) types of love that must be practiced in godly marriage. These are 'affectionate' love and 'sacrificial/1 Corinthians 13:1-13 love.
TEXT REVIEW : 1 Corinthians 13:1-13* "- "NO SUBSTITUTE
The following are not substitute for charitable love:
i. Speaking in tongues of men and angels Vs. 1
ii. Gift of prophecy. Vs. 2
iii. Understanding of mysteries. Vs 2
iv. All knowledge. Vs 2
v. All faith. Vs 2
vi. Welfare grace or philanthropy. Vs 3
vii. Sacrifice of body. Vs 3
Those who claim to have genuine love based on the above parameters had better understood that their bases for love was

NOTHING Vs 2 and Vs 3. They are "nothing" because:
i. Prophecy will fail. Vs 8
ii. Speaking in tongue will cease. Vs 8
iii. Knowledge shall vanish away. Vs 8
The true and lasting thing which does not fail is charity. Therefore, those who do not want to fail should embrace charity Vs 9-10
LESSON OUTLINE 1: ”STORGE" AFFECTIONATE LOVE.
i. Greek word translate "storge" as Affectionate love .
ii. It is a familiar love that must be practically shown among couples, children and extended family members. Gen.
13:8-9, Ruth 1:16
iii. It is the care and concern that binds families together and which fosters unity against all odds. Gen. 14: 14-16; 34:1-7, 25-27; Exodus 2: 2-8
iv. It strengthens the family ties during suffering and heartache 1 Sam. 1:4-8.
v. It is the supportive love which must be demonstrated in the lines of losses or victory, failure, or success, sickness or sound health, sadness and joy, disappointment or achievement, etc. Luke 8:41-42, 49-55.
vi. It is a love that builds up trust and safety in marriage.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: What is the relevance of "storge" to marriage?
LESSON OUTLINE 2: "AGAPE" SACRIFICIAL/CHARITABLE LOVE
i. Agape describes love that comes from God who is God of love..
ii. God demonstrates his love to sinners by allowing the Lord Jesus to die for us. Rom. 5:8
iii. When a man truly loves God and holds on to his God and despises others such man has demonstrated Agape love. Matt. 6:24.
iv. A husband who truly loves his wife as Christ loves the church is said to exhibit Agape love. Eph. 5:25-31.
v. Agape love is unconditional love which stands and remains when other types of love quits, and when there is no reason to do so.
vi. Agape love is described as charitable love. 1 Cor. 13:1-13.
vii. Agape love still continues despite the shortcomings or faults of our mates.
vii. Agape love gives sacrificially and holds the couple together till death do them part. 1 John 3:16; John 13:1.
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Identity the characteristics of Agape love.

SUMMARY :
"Storge" is affectionate "Agape" is charitable.
CONCLUSION :
A marriage without the presence and commitment of Storge (support and care) and Agape love may be on the express lane to heartbreak.
EVALUATION :
Mention four (4) characteristics of "storge" and "Agape" each.
CLOSING PRAYER :
Father, help couples to love each other to the end.
ASSIGNMENT :
Differentiate in five (5) points between "storge" and "Agape".


SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
1. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
2. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
3. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
4. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.
5. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I'll be in Sunday School.
6. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?

Reference: RCCG Sunday School Teacher's Manual, Lesson Nineteen (19) , 2018/2019 Edition.

Sunday, December 30, 2018

PRACTICAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE -PART 1

OPENING PRAYER
Father, let true and genuine love flow in all our marriages.

MEMORY VERSE: "My little children, let us not love in work, neither in tongue; but indeed and in truth." 1John 3:18.

BIBLE PASSAGE: 1Corinthians 7:2-5

1 Corinthians:7.2
Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians:7.3
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
1 Corinthians:7.4
The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband [does.] And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife [does.]
1 Corinthians:7.5
Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

INTRODUCTION:
Love is a fundamental characteristics of who God is. 1John 4:7-8. Everything God does is prompted and influenced by His love. The Bible uses several different words for "love" in the Hebrew and Greek, interchanging them depending on context. Some of these word's mean "affectionate love"; others indicate "friendship"; and still others, "erotic/sexual love" as we "sacrificial/charitable love".

TEXT REVIEW: 1Corinthians 7:2-5

Apostle Paul gave three (3) instructions to believers on marriage between verses 2-5. These instructions are stated below:

(i). Let every man or woman get his own wife and her own husband. 1Cor. 7:2.

(ii). Let the husband and wife render due benevolence to one another. 1Cor. 7:3

(iii). Let the husband and wife defraud not one another.

What are the reasons behind these instructions?

(i). You marry to avoid formication. 1Cor. 7:2

(ii). You render benevolence in marriage to strengthen the marriage. The word "benevolence" means : Disposition to do good. It also means lovely, kindness, gift, etc. When you sow love, you will reap love.

(iii). You should not defraud because, the moment of doing so, Satan will tempt you.

Other guides for lasting marriage from the Bible passage are:

(i). Give yourself to fasting and prayers. Verse 5b.

(ii). Surrender your power to one another. Verse 4. Power here means exclusive authority and control over his or her body. This authority should be surrender to one another in love.

LESSON OUTLINES
1. "Eros" Erotic/Sexual Love
2. "Philo" Friendship Love.

”EROS" EROTIC/SEXUAL LOVE.
(i). Teacher should find out from the students what they understand by the term "erotic love".

(ii). Teacher should explain the Greek word "eros" as the sexual love or feeling of arousal that are shared between people who are physically attracted to each other.

(iii). Teacher should find out from students whether erotic love has places or root in the Bible.

The expected answers are as follows:

(a). Yes. It has Biblical support if the couple are legally married. Matt. 19:5.

(b). Yes. Because the Bible admonishes married couple not to deny each other with erotic/sexual love. 1Cor. 7:2-5.

(c). Yes. Because sexual intimacy prevents temptation that could lead to sin. 1Cor. 7:5

(d). Sexual intimacy between couple could begin with fore play to produce sexual enjoyment. Songs of Solomon 1:13-15; Eccl.4:11; Prov. 5:19-20.

(iv). Under what condition can erotic love become sin?

Answer:
When it is perverted by the Satan and list and when it is expected outside marriage. Rom. 1:24-28; 1Cor. 6:9; Rev. 21:8; 1Thess. 4:3.

(v). What can Christians do to avoid perversion of erotic love?

Answer:
Couple could be guided by Christian counselors and godly literatures. Hosea 4:6.

CLASS ACTIVITY 1
Why should a believer not behave in the same way an unbeliever should behave in the expression of erotic/sexual love?

"PHILO" FRIENDSHIP LOVE.
(i). Teacher should explain the term "Phileo/Philia" as a brotherly/friendship love which is exhibited in a close, friendly relationship. Prov. 18:24.

(ii). Teacher should give examples of Phileo in the account of David and Jonathan. 1Sam. 18:1-3.

(iii). Teacher should give characteristics of Phileo love as follows:

(a). Feeling of warmth and affection towards another person.

(b). It cherishes each other and expect affection in return. Rom. 12:10.

(iv). Question:
What lessons do Phileo love transfer to married couple?

(a). Couples are to cherish one another with warm affection.

(b). Couple should exhibit sense of comradeship and friendship and must be willing to share and communicate their thoughts, plans, dreams and feelings. Eccl. 4:9-10.

(c). Lesson of confidence in each other's attitude and behaviours.

(d). Phileo love scores the marriage performance satisfactory coupled with the bedroom passion.

(v). Question:
What is the biblical position/God's desire for believers with regards to Phileo?

Answer:
God wants husband and wife to tenderly love each other in warm affection and overlook the faults and failures/weakness of each other. 1Peter 4:8.

CLASS ACTIVITY 2
How can warm friendship/affection be maintained in the marriage?

SUMMARY
Both Erotic and Phileo love are crucial in marriage.

CONCLUSION
The love that lasts longer than dinner and movie must be made up of Eros ( physical attraction) and Phileo (friendship). Do your best to be intimate with your partner marriage.

CLOSING PRAYER
Class to pray to God to give married  couple sincere grace to cherish each other with warm affection.

ASSIGNMENT
Find out ten (10) reasons why some couples quarrel or fight. 1mark for each point.

SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN

1. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.

2. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.

3. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.

4. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee.

5. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I'll be in Sunday School.

6. O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?

Reference : RCCG Sunday School Teacher's Manual, Lesson Eighteen, 2018/2019 Edition

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