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Good Parenting Principles In This Century

Children, if not properly groomed may never get to the top in life, even if both parents are at the top of their careers. Manners take you to where your education can't irrespective of your status, wealth or your reach or influence. Going to your child's school indecently dressed. (Think again). Speaking rashly to your child's teacher. Cursing, using foul language or swearing words in front of your children. Using makeup on children. Dressing your little children up indecently.

Putting earrings on your son's ears. Your child hold the cup or glassware by the brim and you don't correct. Your children don't greet and you just feel they will come around one day because they have a mood swing. (You will be blamed for it). Your children eat with their mouth opened and you feel they will grow up some day. Your children bringing home something you did not buy for them and you say nothing. (that is the beginning of stealing).

The Children talk back at you and you conclude it's okay since you are a 21st century parent. (You will hate yourself if they do that outside and they are disciplined). The Children interrupt when you are speaking with another adult and you think they are bold and clever. (Its really bad manners). The Children exercising authority over the nanny and domestic staff and you let them be. (that is bad parenting). The Children saying things like "my driver is on his way. " I do not advocate that children should call your domestic staff Aunty or Brother, calling them by name when they are not young people is not proper either. The use of Miss, Mr or Mrs will look good on them.

Your children don't say a 'thank you' when they have been helped or served something and you are cool with that. (Bad parenting). When your Children cannot stand children's who are less privileged. When the Children pick their noses with their hands. When the Children don't wash their hands after visiting the washroom or after returning from school or outside visits. When your Children take something from the fridge without taking permission. (Bad parenting).

When your Children don't knock on closed doors and wait for a response before opening the door. When your Children don't collect from your hands items you brought in as you walk into your home. When your Children request for a bribe to carry out their home chores or extra task. (That is disgraceful). When your Children act like their Grandparents irritate them. (It's a Transferable Curse). When your Children have not learnt to get up from the Chair for the Elderly or Visitors to sit.

When your Children tells lot of lies. (You will both cry in the future). When your Children ask "who is that?" at a knock on your door instead of "please, may I know who is there." When your Children is always seated by your visitors when being served drinks or Food.

When your Children still point their fingers at other people, when talking to or speaking about them. When your Children play and jump around when prayers are going on. (These can apply to children from ages four and above). This  is very rude ; rotten parenting. Such a parent is a shame to herself. Teach your children at home, it's very frustrating to have your children make noise while prayers or preachings going on. May d Lord help us parents to stop being irresponsible.

Don't be a 21st century parent who can't correct their Children. You leave your children to jump on beds, sofas at your house, they carry this personality to other people's houses whom you visit. They open fridges at other people's houses,  jump on sofas, break glasses; you do not even stop your child. Go ahead, destroy them so they will fail their future. Train your Children in the way of the Lord so that when they grow up they will not depart from such Godly Training or upbringing.

Parenting can be one of life's most rewarding pursuits. It can bring great joy into life, but it can also be challenging and overwhelming. Because every child and family situation is unique, it can be hard to know the best thing to do in every parenting situation. While there is no magic formula for perfect parenting, there are certain traits and behaviors that successful parents share. Whether your children are toddlers or teens, implementing these principles will create a strong foundation for achieving your goal of being a good parent.

However, the followings are the good parenting principles in this current century;

Love your child unconditionally
Never withhold love as a punishment for bad behavior. While you don't have to accept your child's negative choices or behaviors, tell him and show him that you love and accept him as a person. Give him your love and support in good times and in bad. Be an example of the kind of person you want your child to be. Model the positive attitudes and behaviors that you expect from her. Your children are the keenest observers of everything you do and say. Your personal example will have an enormous impact on how your child behaves. Strive to be your best self, and be someone your child can emulate.

Empower your child and help her feel capable


Give her opportunities to work independently. For a young child, it might be as simple as setting the table or cleaning up her toys. Older children might cook a meal or plan a family activity. Whatever options you choose, find ways to teach your children that they are competent. Support them and help them, but don't try to solve all their problems for them. Accept mistakes-your own and your child's. Life is difficult and everyone will make mistakes. Have realistic goals and expectations for yourself and your children, and forgive each other when you sometimes fall short. Learn from mistakes, and use them as an opportunity to grow.

Spend quality time together
Even when your schedule is busy and hectic, find time to focus on each individual child. Take advantage of small opportunities to bond. Whether it's during the drive to school, while taking a walk, during mealtimes or bath times, you can take those few minutes to focus on your child, listen to his thoughts and concerns, and show how much you care about him.

Set reasonable rules and expectations for your child and be consistent
The key to effective discipline is to have clear rules and boundaries in place for your child and to be consistent about enacting consequences. Establish routines for your children to follow, and be clear and specific about the behavior you expect from them. Focus on positive behavior as much as possible. Recognize the positive choices and behaviors of your child and give her sincere praise for the good things she does. Acknowledging and complimenting your child's positive behavior will help reinforce it. It will also help prevent your child from using negative behavior as a way to get attention.

Avoid comparing your children to others, especially siblings
Each child is individual and unique. Celebrate their differences and instill in each child the desire to pursue their interests and dreams. Failure to do so may give your child an inferiority complex, an idea that they can never be good enough in your eyes. If you want to help them improve their behavior, talk about meeting their goals on their own terms, instead of telling them to act like their sister or neighbor. This will help them develop a sense of self instead of having an inferiority complex. Comparing one child to another can also make one child develop a rivalry with his or her sibling. You want to nurture a loving relationship between your children, not a competitive one. Avoid favoritism. Surveys have shown that most parents have favorites, but most children believe that they are the favorite. If your children are quarreling, don't choose sides, but be fair and neutral. Overcome natural birth order tendencies by making each child responsible for themselves. Putting older kids in charge of the younger one stokes sibling rivalry, whereas making them take responsibility for themselves encourages individuality and self-reliance.

Praise your children
Praising your children is an important part of being a good parent. You want your kids to feel proud of their accomplishments and good about themselves. If you don't give them the confidence they need to be out in the world on their own, then they won't feel empowered to be independent or adventurous. When they do something good, let them know that you've noticed and that you're very proud of them. Emphasize your children's accomplishments, talents, and good behavior, while minimizing their faults. This shows them you see the best in them. Make a habit of praising your children at least three times as much as you give them negative feedback. Though it's important to tell your children when they're doing something wrong, it's also important to help them build a positive sense of self. If they are too young to fully understand, praise them with applause and lots of love. Encouraging them for doing everything from using the potty to getting good grades can help them lead a happy and successful life. Avoid blanket phrases like "Good job!". Instead provide descriptive praise which lets them know exactly what is being appreciated. For example "You did great taking turns with your sister while playing" or "Thank you for cleaning up the toys after playing with them!

Be a united front with your spouse
If you have a spouse, then it's important that your children think of you as a united front — as two people who will both say "yes" or "no" to the same things. If your kids think that their mother will always say yes and their father will say no, then they'll think that one parent is "better" or more easily manipulated than the other. They should see you and your spouse as a unit so there's order in your high school, and so you don't find yourself in a difficult situation because you and your spouse don't agree on certain things when it comes to raising the kids. This doesn't mean that you and your spouse have to agree 100% about everything having to do with the kids. But it does mean that you should work together to solve problems that involve the children, instead of being pitted against each other. You shouldn't argue with your spouse in front of the children. If they are sleeping, argue quietly. Children may feel insecure and fearful when they hear parents bickering. In addition, children will learn to argue with each other the same way they hear their parents argue with each other. Show them that when people disagree, they can discuss their differences peacefully.

Conclusively, being a parent can be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling experiences of your life, but that doesn't mean it's easy. No matter what age your child/children is/are, your work is never done. To be a good parent, you need to know how to make your children feel valued and loved, while teaching them the difference between right and wrong. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to create a nurturing environment where your children feel like they can thrive and develop into confident, independent, and caring adults.


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