7 SIGNS OF IMMATURITY IN MARRIAGE IN MEN

Here are seven signs of immaturity in marriage in men;

[1] NOT SAYING SORRY
Maturity begins in marriage when you begin to say sorry! When you learn to say sorry for  no reason at all then you are ready to get married. It was in Rev Omar Pela's Church. He told a story of how on a particular morning, his wife stormed into the  room with a moody look on her face. Being a gentleman, he asked, “ Sweetheart what's wrong?” She said, “ nothing!” [You know when a lady tells you. Nothing. irk! ]

So he impressed further, “ You don't sound fine dear ”. She replied,“I said I'm fine!” He said at that moment he tried to replay in his head, if there was any misunderstanding previously. He couldn't remember any. So, not to cause any tension at all he decided to continue his study in church office.

As he picked the car keys to leave, the wife blurted. So you are going to leave without showing concern or care? He said at that point he was angry and shouted. Did I not ask you? Wat else do u want me to do. So he slammed the door and left.

On getting to the car downstairs, about to start the car. The Holy spirit asked him, if someone passes by now and mistakenly hit his leg on a stone, what would you say? He replied, I will tell the person sorry. The Holy spirit asked again, did you cause the person to hit his/her leg on the stone?

He said no! Then why would u say sorry for what you didn't cause? He said instantly he got d message the Holy Spirit was trying to pass across. That you don't have to be d cause to say sorry. So he got back upstairs, his wife looking at him angrily. Then he said, Sweetheart I'm sorry. She just wrapped her arm around him and sobs. What a wonder! He said he was left speechless and wondering.

Dear friends, stop justifying yourself. Can you just tell Him/Her you are sorry even if it was your partner's fault? I am sorry can make that relationship work! Have a blessed day and I am sorry for whatever pain or anger that myself or anybody else had brought upon you.
Note that this is not meant for only men, women included. Let us learn to forgive each other because, in life we disagree to  agree and every misunderstanding opens our eyes to understand each other better. Cheers!

[ 2.] REJECTING FOOD WHEN THERE'S AN ISSUE
Mr husband, you gave your wife money for food and after it was prepared you refused to eat because you are angry. It's one of the greatest signs of immaturity, it's time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry but ensure that you don't allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome.

[3] TELLING YOUR WIFE SEVERALLY THAT YOU ARE THE HEAD
May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It's important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

[4] ISSUING THREATS
Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."

[5] REPORTING YOUR WIFE TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY
When your wife offends you, correct and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back. By the way, are you a reporter answer my question ?

[6] KEEPING MALICE
Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticise, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a "big boy" who's in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.

[7] NOT HELPING WITH HOUSE CHORES
I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman to tend and manage a home when she chooses to be a full time house wife.However, it's not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary.

Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you'll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys.

Some men don't even say "thank you" to their wives after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It's a shame that after having 3-4 kids some men cannot change a simple diaper or prepare cereal meals; a big shame.

Conclusively, learn to say sorry in your marriage and learn to play maturity in your home. The conversation between dad and son follows immediately;

Son: Dad, I want to get married
Dad: First, Tell me you are sorry
Son: For what?
Dad: Say sorry
Son: But for what? What did I do?
Dad: Just say sorry
Son: But, What have I done wrong?
Dad: I said, say sorry
Son: Why?
Dad: Say Sorry!!
Son: Please. Just tell me why? !
Dad: Say sorry.
Son: OK Dad, I am sorry
Dad: Uhun.. You've just qualified and matured for marriage!

This a marriage diamond therapy ! God bless you.

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