RELATIONSHIP STUDIES

MEANING OF RELATIONSHIP
Relationship is the way two people or groups or countries behave towards each other or degree of kinship or intimacy, affinity in an affair. Relationship develops when people live, play, do things together or worship together.

MEANING OF FAMILY
A family is a group of people who are related by blood or by marriage or by adoption. Families are the origin of human communities. Some members of a family include father, mother, children, relatives, grandparents and in-laws.
TYPES OF FAMILY
There are two different types of family e.g. nuclear, extended, paternal and maternal family.
The Nuclear Family – is made up of husband, and children, including adopted children and wards. The nuclear family is also called the natural or restricted family.
Extended Family – is made up of husband, wife, children, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. It is also made up of the relatives of the parents in the nuclear family.
Paternal Family – the family lineage is traced through the father’s side.
Maternal Family – the family lineage is traced through the mother’s side.
RECOGNITION AND ROLES OF FAMILY MEMBERS
ROLES OF FAMILY MEMBERS: EPH. 6:1-9; 5:21 – 33; COL. 3: 18 – 21
Every member of the family has God ordained roles to play for love, harmony, progress and peaceful co-existence of the family.
Failure of any member of the family to play his or her role will make the family not to be what God planned for it.
Children are to obey their parents in the fear of God. That is, the children’s obedience to the parents should be in agreement with the word of God. They are also to honour; respect their parents so that it will be well with them and so that they may live long on the earth.
Fathers and Mothers –They  are to take care of the children, provide for them and not to provoke them, but to nurture and admonish the children in truth i.e. they are to train them to be disciplined children, instruct them with the word of God.
Servants/Wards – They are to be obedient to the masters with fear and trembling, serving in singleness of heart and without eye-service. Their service should be as to the Lord Jesus Christ and not as to men, or men-pleasers, but as servants of the Lord Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. The service they render should be of good will as to the Lord who will reward them accordingly for well doing.
Wives –They are to be subject and submissive to their husbands in everything as the church is subject and submissive unto Christ the head of the church. Wives are to recognize their husbands as the head of the family. They are to also respect and reverence their husbands.
Husbands – They are to love their wives sacrificially as Christ loved the church and died for it. Husbands are to care, cherish and relish their wives as their own bodies, since no man ever hates his own flesh. It is Gods command that the man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto his own wife so that both of them can become one flesh.
CONCEPT OF GOOD FAMILY NAME
The concept of a good family name is manifested by the character, virtues and the up-bringing of members of the family. Normally, family good name is not bought with money, but comes as a result of good reputation shown by the members. This include hardworking, discipline, honesty, respect for other, politeness, courtesy, kindness, public spiritedness, assistance to others especially the needy etc.
On the other hand, family good name is tarnished and destroyed by vices like waywardness of children, fighting, drunkenness, immorality, robbery either by pen or by gun, cultism and such anti-social behavior portrayed by the members of the family.
The Bible has this to say, “A good name is to be chosen, rather than great riches, and favour is better than silver or gold”. Proverbs 22:1.
MORAL LESSONS:
The plan of God is for all members of the family to live peacefully together. Therefore, anything that can lead to trouble or break up of the family should be avoided.
All members of the family are to play their roles with the progress of the family in view.
Every member of the family should protect the good name of the family, because a good name is better than silver and gold.
THE SCHOOL FAMILY
Every school consists of five groups of people, which come together to form the school family.
Group 1
The Principal, Vice-Principal, Administrators, Bursar, and Secretary.
Group 2
The Teacher - Form Masters and Mistresses.
Group 3
Subject Teachers.
Group 4
Prefects and Class Monitors – Students.
Group 5
Students.

CHOOSING FRIENDS AT SCHOOL:
A friend is someone who is very close to us. Friendship occurs as a result of likeness.
During our first days at school, we have no friends. We are just individuals from different homes who have been brought together to learn. Eventually, we are to choose some of our class mate or school mate to become our friends. Human being has been created by God in way that we can’t live in isolation. On a daily basis, we need to interact with our fellow mates to discuss, learn and impact knowledge. Friends are inevitable in the journey of life. They can either make you or mar you.
REASONS/FACTORS FOR CHOICE OF FRIENDS
At most times, we choose friends because of the:
-same age group,
-common interest or school clubs
-religion etc.
At times, our friendship becomes a lifelong relationship (family-friends).
MORAL LESSONS
  1. To grow in life in all areas, we need one another.
  2. We can’t do without the help of others so we must show ourselves friendly.
RESULT OF BAD FRIENDSHIP
Friendship can’t be ruled out in any facet of life. Animals in the forest communicate with each other not to talk of human beings created in the image of God. There are some examples found in the Bible:
FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN DAVID AND JONATHAN
Jonathan was the son of Saul, the first king of Israel. David was the son of Jesse, a shepherd. David and Jonathan became friends after God helped David to kill Goliath of Gath (Philistine) as he lived in the house of King Saul, and married his daughter Jonathan and David became close when David was living in the palace. Jonathan gave David his robe, a bow, arrow and girdle for presents as a mark of their friendship. Jonathan chose David as his friend because he was a good boy. He was brave and he trusted in the lord.
QUALITIES OF GOOD FRIENDS:
  • BraveryTrust in the lord
  • Fear of the lord
  • Faithfulness      
  • Obedience
  • Reliability etc.

RESULT OF BAD FRIENDSHIP (PROV. 1:10; 2THES. 3:6-13)
The Bible made it clear that “evil communication corrupts good manners”. This is true among all human but mostly influential on students. Having bad friends is a great danger because it is easier to influence human negatively than positively. Thus, it is easier for a criminal to influence his good friend than for a good boy to influence a criminal to become good boy. Here are some characters found in bad friends: truancy, smoking, homosexual, lesbianism, prostitution, drinking, stealing, laziness and so on.

MORAL LESSONS:
  1. We must learn to pray to God to help us choose friends who possess good qualities in life, like Jonathan.Some friends are not reliable and may disappoint us when we need help most, so we must be careful.We should learn to pray to God to help us avoid friends who are unreliable and can disappoint us.
  2. The evils of bad friendship can destroy our future to succeed and prosper in life. We must learn to pray to God to help us avoid the evils of bad friendship so as to succeed and prosper in    life.

BIBLICAL REFERENCES: EPH. 6:1-9. ECCLE.12:1. PROV. 22:1.COL. 3:18-21. I PETER 3:1-7

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